“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.”-1 Corinthians 13:4-8
As I sit here on my couch watching my babies play while I write. I feel an immense sense of joy that makes my heart flutter like a butterfly. Love is the strongest emotion that you can feel. One might say that hate is as well, but hate has a narrow path and is often a counter reaction to Love. But love, love is powerful.
So why is it then, that we are often hurt most by the ones we love? Or that so many of us are living with broken hearts or depression, because we feel we were failed by love?
Certainly, it feels like the word “love”, is tossed around very loosely sometimes. And when it is, it makes those three little words “I love you” hold less meaning than the power that they truly have.
The best example of what love is supposed to look like, comes from the bible.
1 Corinthians 13:4-8 explains love in a way that we are supposed to love. It gives us a blueprint on the way that we should view love, whether we are giving or receiving it.
First it says that love is patient. But how easy is it to lose patience with the ones you love? Is it that we try to put a time limit on how much patience we can give a person? As if there’s a clock ticking somewhere before our patience runs out. We must learn to continue to have patience, even when it feels we have waited long enough.
Next it says that Love is kind. When you think about love, you must have kindness. Love is supposed to bring joy. That is why we are supposed to love everyone and spread that joy to the world.
It also states that love does not boast. This one is hard not to be guilty of. Too often when you love someone, you want to boast about what you’ve done for them. Because you want the world to know, that this is what it looks like when I love someone. But in reality we are not supposed to speak on the things we do for someone we love. We are just supposed to do them because it makes us glad to see them happy.
Next love is not proud. Pride is a hard pill to swallow. It’s hard because most of us won’t admit that we have it. It’s hard to humble yourself and admit when you are wrong, especially when you feel like you were wronged. And sometimes, it’s just easier to let love die than put our pride to the side and only be accountable for how we love another person. Maybe then it would be easier to accept love’s flaws.
Love is not rude and it’s not self-seeking. Can you think of a time when you have maybe said something rude to someone you love? One thing about our words is once we say them we can’t get them back. We must be wise with our words and watch what we say to those who we love. It’s easy to only want to and show proper love when things are good. But we must not love for self- gratification. Rather than seeking what love can give us we must strive to seek what we can give to the ones we love.
Love is not easily angered and it keeps no record of wrongs. So why is it that we can fued so much with the ones we love? We can lose our patience quick and let anger enter into our heart causing us to hold grudges. But love keeps no records of wrongs. We are not supposed to stay mad at something our loved one did last month or even one minute ago. We have to constantly wipe the slate clean and give room for error. Stop letting your heart dwell on things of the past, because forgiveness is fresh and new every day. When we seek to love with forgiveness, it gives love a point to grow without hindrance.
Love delights not in evil but rejoices in truth. Love is the purest emotion that we can feel. So we must always seek to love with true and honest emotion. We need not let our hearts dwell on evil thoughts. We must always seek to love with truth and give our purest hearts to the ones we say we love.
And lastly, love always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always prevails, and love never fails. How can we protect the ones we love? Do we put our trust into our loved one, even if its been broken? Are you hopeful for the ones you love and staying optimistic about the future of your love? Can you prevail with someone that you love through thick and through thin? Through the good times and the bad? For if we learn to give and receive love this way, Love will never fail us.
As I grow in wisdom and seek to become a better lover myself, I look to love in the way that the bible says to love. I seek to love better everyday so that I can be a better lover, mother, friend and all around human being.
If we want to change the world we must first change the way we view and give love. Everybody needs somebody to love. So we must learn to love everybody. The only way we can make the world great again, is by learning to love again.
Love is a powerful emotion. It is at the center of all creation. We have to spread the love so that we can begin to uplift one another and see our world change.
I love you my readers. And I mean that in the most genuine of ways. I hope that you enjoyed reading and please continue to strive to love better.
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-As Told By Val